I know what you're picturing when you hear "sleep coaching". A strict method. A rigid schedule. Someone handing you a plan and telling you to leave your baby to cry while you sit outside the door feeling like the worst mum in the world. And I know that picture might be what's stopping you from getting help.
So let me show you what it actually looks like, from the very first message to the other side. Spoiler: it's nothing like that!
It starts with a chat, not a commitment
The first step is a free discovery call. It's about 20 minutes, with no paperwork, no payment and no pressure to do anything after we hang up.
It's not me trying to sign you up whatever you say. It's a proper chat about your situation: your baby's age, what your nights look like, what you've already tried, what your feeding relationship means to you, and what you actually want to change. Not what you think you should want. What you really need.
You might come into that call braced to be told you've done something wrong, or left it too long. That's not what happens. I'll listen, properly. No judgement, no agenda.
And if I don't think I'm the right fit for your family, I'll tell you. That matters more to me than a booking.
Then I get to know your baby properly
If we decide to go ahead, you'll fill in a three-day sleep diary and a detailed questionnaire. This is where things get specific.
I want to know exactly what your days and nights look like. When your baby wakes up, what naps are doing, how bedtime goes and how long it takes. How many times they wake overnight, when, and what it takes to get them back down. What they're eating, and how they are during the day.
I want to know about you too. Your feeding goals. How you're doing, mentally and physically. How involved your partner is. Your other children, your work, and anything else that matters to your family that a generic plan would never think to ask.
It's not box-ticking. It's how I make sure your plan is built for your baby and your family. Not for a made-up baby, and not for whoever wrote the sleep book you've already thrown across the room!
The consultation: your plan, built with you
Then we spend a full hour together.
I'll have gone through everything before we speak, so I won't just be reading your answers back to you. I'll show you what I can see in your baby's patterns, explain why it's happening, and we'll work through the plan together so you understand it inside out.
That bit really matters. A plan you've helped build, asked questions about and actually understand is so different to a document that lands in your inbox telling you what to do. One you believe in. The other you follow until 3am on a bad night, then give up on.
Before we even talk about night one, we get you ready. I want to know you're clear on why you're doing this, that your partner's on board, and that you know what to expect when it gets tough. Because there will be tough moments. That's not a reason not to do it. But going in unprepared makes it so much harder, so this step isn't optional.
Night three
Once the plan starts, you've got me on WhatsApp for the length of your support, with every full package. Not a chatbot. Not an FAQ page. Not an email three days later asking how it's going. Me.
Here's the reality. Night one is usually fine. You're prepared, you're motivated, and you're running on adrenaline and the relief of finally doing something.
It's night three that gets hard.
It's when something small and unexpected happens and your confidence wobbles. When your baby does something the plan didn't cover and you're too tired to think straight. When the doubt creeps in.
But by night three, you'll know your plan inside out. You'll understand why each part is there. You'll be able to tell the difference between a little hiccup and something that needs changing, and you'll feel confident enough to stick with it.
And if something comes up that you're not sure about, message me. I'll get back to you as soon as I can, and we'll work through it together. You won't be making these decisions on your own.
The WhatsApp support isn't a nice extra. It's a huge part of what makes the plan work.
What the other side can feel like
It's rarely a straight line, and I want you to know that going in. Every baby moves at their own pace, and I'll be honest with you the whole way through about what I'm seeing and what to expect.
And when things start to shift, it's not just about sleep. It's the first evening you sit on the sofa at 8pm, the monitor's quiet, and you don't immediately brace for it to start again. It's the first morning your first thought isn't dread. It's small, but it's everything.
That's what gentle sleep coaching looks like. Not rigid. Not clinical. And not something that makes you choose between your baby's needs and your own.
If you want to find out whether it's right for your family, the discovery call is where we start. It's free, it's about 20 minutes, and it's just a chat.
Whenever you're ready, I'm here.
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